Depressed about parents decision when controlling of my braces when younger

I just wanted to rant on here because I've been feeling depressed and finally came to realization after so long. I am now 27 years old.When I was around 12-13 I had a really bad overjet bite (buck teeth) and my parents were poor but MassHealth was giving braces for free for children. My dad would take me to an orthodontist and she wanted to extract 4 teeth for braces but I just found out that at the time my father did not let her extract the teeth (because being conservative Vietnamese they were against taking away a healthy tooth but I guess my father did not understand and I was too young to know what was going on). My teeth on top and bottom failed to correct and also the orthodontist was a mean and rude lady. We had asked her to fix it but masshealth only pays for braces ONCE (Turns out her business also got closed years ago because she was also committing MassHealth fraud). My friend had told me because she had the same orthodontist and her treatment was not good either. But I'm realizing only now the teeth failed to correct because the premolars were never extracted. Before I thought she just wasn't a good orthodontist.I went with the overjet of my teeth for a year or two in high school after but I felt really insecure in high school because kids were making fun of me and it was getting to the point whenever I closed my mouth it would hurt. After my mother's friends convincing her to pay to fix my teeth. My mother only had enough money to pay for one arch on top out of pocket $2500 at another general dentist who also did braces. At the time I had such low self esteem I had agreed because I just wanted to correct the top as much as possible so I would stop being made fun of and my teeth to not dig into my lips anymore. My mom said yes to extracting 2 teeth on top and it did fix the overjet.However I realized I should have also gotten the bottom braces as well because my bottom teeth were still crooked and I ended up having painfully impacted wisdom teeth coming out after I got my braces off. My mouth and jaw is really small. After my braces were taken off my left bottom wisdom tooth became impacted and was growing into my second molar, and I had to end up extracting my left second molar as well :( Now it just suddenly made sense to me that it could have been avoided if I had bottom braces to extract my 2 premolars making room. Why didn't my dentist suggest my mom or me to get the bottom braces since I did 2 premolars on top and so 2 premolars on bottom to removed would also make sense? I guess he didn't say anything because my mother didn't have the money anyways? I mean I'm really upset about all this, but my parents didn't know any better and my mother did not have money....Is it strange to have only 2 premolars removed only on top? The amount of teeth I have is not even. 12 on top and now 13 on bottom (due to 2nd molar being gone). via /r/braces https://ift.tt/34tPTuI