He makes me feel safe.

I was looking for ages for somewhere to post this. Mostly because the feeling he gives me makes me want to share it with the world and that's still very new to me. I've dated people in the past where I thought i was in love with them but in reality they were relationships that ended up being toxic for my mental health. I met him a year ago and at first we actually didn't get along. He's very opinionated and so am I. I wasn't used to someone that would challenge me in how I thought and at first I didn't like it. But something happened over time and we ended up becoming friends, best friends and then to falling in love. I think what originally attracted me to him was that he wasn't interested in me. It sounds vain to say and I'm definitely nowhere near perfect but I'm a decent looking girl. I'm used to having men take an interest in me or try to flirt with me. He was different. I kept waiting for him to be like that.. to stop being my friend and try to get more from me but he didn't. Honestly looking back I think it made me want him more. As friends he had amazing banter and a mysterious side that I wanted to uncover. I remember thinking then that falling in love with my best friend wouldn't be so bad but it wasn't until we started dating a long time later that I saw the real him. He is sensitive and kind and teaches me to be a better person. My past relationships as I mentioned earlier were toxic and I'm used to horrible fights that would end with them yelling and me in tears. As well as a lot of mental and some physical abuse. His and my first argument didn't even make it into an argument. He wouldn't let it. He spoke to me softly and told me that he loved me and that this isn't us and wouldn't be us. We are better than this. It probably sounds simple to say but I'd never had anyone care about me like that before. I have BPD so my fear of being abandoned is quite strong but with him for the first time in my life I feel safe. He never judges me for it and is patient with me and understanding. I had to share this because I had started to believe at my age that this kind of love wouldn't happen for me. I'd almost given up on the idea and wasn't looking but I found him when I needed someone the most. <3 via /r/love https://www.reddit.com/r/love/comments/j46bec/he_makes_me_feel_safe/?utm_source=ifttt